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THE TENNESSEAN, Wednesday, March 28. 1973 000000000005 in at By UPI TEW one the GAY Women's pose Watch time dumps" PAULY YORK Editor or around or another (UPI) "I'm catch in I Song a it- Out Blue?" lousy writers "I'm All of mood." down com- us Many great personalities have been victims of it--Sir Winston Churchill called it "the black In several cases, it leads to chronic unhappiness, mental breakdown, suicide even. The world for the affliction "depression." The American psychiatric association says it has become our "Most of mental disorder." ALMOST EVERYONE of any age feels low from time to time. This mood can be a passing thing, or it can be serious. Every year doctors treat an estimated four million to eight million Americans for depression, about 250,000 of whom require hospitalization.

Many more never find their way to a doctor. Fortunately, though, the outlook for effective treatment today is quite hopeful. It may range, in cases of mild gloom, to something simple as a brisk walk, bowling, hitting a bucketful of golf balls around. Serious cases can call for antidepressant medication, psychiatric counseling, and-or electroshock. THE MANY facets of "the most common form of mental disorder" are examined in a new publication from the public affairs committee, a New Yor? -headquartered non-profit educational organization.

The publication, "Depression: Causes and Treatment" is by Theodore Irwin, who's written extensively in the health fields. The National Association for Mental Health defines depression as "An emotional state of dejection and sadness, ranging from mild discouragement and downheartedness to feelings of utter hopelessness and despair." It differs from sadness in that sadness is but a passing mood, but depression if serious enough can end in self-destruction. for 'Black Dog IRWIN SAYS THAT almost all psychiatrists believe a depression "is brought on by a loss, such as the death or rejection of a loved person or the loss of a cherished possession. "Some scientists consider the mental illness of depression to be genetic (inborn) in origin." Among its signs are: feelings of worthlessness and anxiety, an inability to find pleasure in normal activities, fatigue, early morning sleeplessness, contemplation of they vary from individual to individual, Irwin says. All ages are vulnerable The babies who are neglected emotionally or sense that the mother herself is downcast; young children who feel rejected or worthless; teenagers who's rebelliousness may be masking their despondency; YOUNG ADULTS including women poorly-prepared for motherhood; middle-aged persons; the aging who must adjust to loss of physical strength and flexibility and to dependency, financial insecurity, the sense of not being needed; The chronically ill, the incapacitated, alcoholics and drug addicts.

And some researchers say that depression occurs in women two or three times as often as in men. Serious depressions call for medical treatment. Often expending physical energy works off milder attacks. DO SOME SOUL-searching. As Irwin says, the objective is not only to review what happened but to understand what causes it.

Is your ego bruised by a mistake? Are you overly tired? Some bad news? "Talk out your troubles with someone you trust- -your spouse, lawyer, friend. Let off a little steam. It's therapeutic," says Irwin. And remember, "for the everyday variety of the blues, time is usually a good healer. Your emotional apparatus is remarkablely resilient." Bridal Shows 'A Friendly Gesture' By AMY VANDERBILT "DEAR MISS VANDERBILT: Is it considered proper to have a bridal shower for a girl we have never met? This is often done in this local community and their when the brides-to-be men are from other areas.

E. Iowa City, Iowa." I think it is a friendly thing to do. Showers should not be given by members of the family (although there are certain ethnic exceptions to this which I have been writing about). Those who offer to give the showers should be young women who will presumably be friends and contemporaries of the coming bride. Bridal Tea "DEAR MISS VANDERBILT: My son was OVERWEIGHT Odrinex can help you become the trim slim person you want to be.

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Sold with this guarantee by: SUPER DRUG STORES divorced after a childless marriage several years ago. His ex-wife has remarried. Now he is engaged to a girl whose home is several hundered miles away. There has been an announcement and a photograph in her local paper, but I wonder if it is proper for the same announcement to be used in our own paper. "I would not let friends here Etiquette have a tea for the girl, as we certainly don't want to do anything that is in poor taste.

Mrs. J. Nashville, Tenn." There is no reason why the engagement announcement can't be made in your hometown newspaper, and there is no reason either why the girl could not have a bridal tea given there. status of the groom has nothing to do with these bridal preparations (see my book on the subject in your library). Second Ceremony "DEAR MISS VANDERBILT: My son is being married in England and, naturally, the family is unable to attend due to the expense.

(I will attend, however.) I would like a second ceremony here in the States. Both are agreeable. Should she wear her veil since she will have been married one week? Or should she wear a Juliet cap "Be Ye Fishers of Men" The fish and cross symbol is based upon the ancient Christian symbol, which was inspired by Christ's words to his followers. All pieces shown are in 14 karat gold. Pendant, $15.

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MISS JANET NELL MASON Mr. and Mrs. A. H. Mason of Springfield announce the engagement of their daughter Janet Nell to James Ray Morgan, son of Mr.

and Mrs. Jesse C. Morgan of Helena Ark. The wedding is planned for June 30.. Miss Mason is a graduate MISS JOYCE ANN CHAPPELL of Springfield High School Fall's Business College Nashville.

She is employed the financial section of Tennessee Department Safety. Mr. Morgan graduated high school in Beaumont as and the University Arkansas in Fayetteville. Recitals by Guests Hold Attractions By LOUIS NICHOLAS Recitals last night by two guests from out-of-town univerities each had attractions and rewards. Jerry Perkins, of the Middle Tennessee State University facility, gave a recital in Belmont College's wellfilled, intimate Harton Concert Hall that showed him possessor of a goodly supply of pianistic and musical virtues.

IN SCHUBERT'S "Wander- er" Fantasy, he followed the plan of seeking out and stressing the melodic line-almost always a very rewarding approach to Schubert. He kept textures clear by skillful pedaling and clean finger articulation. In the more rhythmic sections his playing was sharply defined. His phrasing was usually shapely, and his sense of design was generally secure. He kept one interested throughout in the music.

What kept his performance from being quite satisfactory was number of stumbles, most of which seemed to be due to questionable practice habits instead of to actual memory failures. (Another minus for which he was not responsible was the progressive deterioration of the piano's tuning.) HIS PLAYING of Charles Miss Boyd, Mr. Patterson Engaged Mrs. Mahlon Ray Jackson of Ky. announces the engagement of her daughter, Miss Janice Lynn Boyd, to Gerald W.

Patterson, son of Mr. and Mrs. George Patterson of Waverly, Tenn. The wedding will be April 14. The -bride-elect is a graduate of Lyon County High School in Kuttawa, Ky.

and is employed by H. D. Lee and Co. Mr. Patterson is a graduate of Waverly Central High School and attended Austin Peay State University at Clarksville.

A graduate of East Los Angeles Junior College, he is also employed by H. D. Lee and Co. T. Griffes' Sonata (1917-18) was relatively free of such blemishes.

I really want to like this work, but each time I hear it, it strikes me as a very arid piece, nowhere near as attractive or worthwhile as his smaller pieces and songs. Perkins' program also listed two pieces of Liszt which I did not hear. John Brock, who gave a guest recital at Christ Episcopal Church, is a member of the University of Tennessee-Knoxville faculty and a very able player. The part of Hindemith's Sonata II on Old Folksongs (1940) which I heard sounded quite dull, but my recollection, from other performances of this work I have heard, is that this is inherent in the music itself. JEHAN ALAIN'S rather delicate Variations on a Theme of Jannequin subjects the attractive model tune to a remarkable variety of interesting changes, along with harmonic excursions equally fascinating.

The performance was tasteful. Dupre's Prelude and Fugue in major, Op. 7, No. 1, is a brilliant showpiece, but also musically solid. Brock played it with secure mastery, propulsive rhythms and arresting tonal and dynamic contrasts.

Mendelssohn, Brahms and Bach were also listed on his program. Jackie, Ari, Kissinger Dine In Acapulco ACAPULCO, Mexico (UPI) Henry Kissinger and Aristotle and Jacqueline Onassis met for dinner at this seaside resort during the weekend. The hosts for the party, which featured Mexican music and Mexican style food, were British brewery heir Loel Guinness and his wife Gloria. The Onassises left for the United States on their yacht Christina after the party. Kissinger paid a courtesy call to Mexican President Luis Echevarria yesterday before returning to Washington from his 10-day Acapulco vacation, the Florida White House said.

Birth Announced Mr. and Mrs. William G. Evans have named their son, born March 22 at Baptist Hospital, Jeffery William. Mrs.

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12 NOON-6 PM CLIP OUT AND SAVE MISS CHARLOTTE HEARINGTON and in in the of from Texof He is employed by the Department of Safety. Miss Chappell, Mr. Simms Mr. and Mrs. Clyde Kenton Chappell of Knoxville announce the engagement of their daughter Joyce Ann, to William Arthur Simms of Knoxville, son of Mr.

and Mrs. Arthur Edward Simms of Fayetteville, Tenn. The wedding is planned for May 27. The bride elect is the granddaughter of the late Mr. and Mrs.

E. P. Chappell of Columbia Tenn. She attended Florida State University at Tallahassee and graduated from the University of Tennessee at Knoxville where she was a member of the UT Singers. She was presented a Symphony Belle in 1966 and is currently a member of Employee Relations Staff at Jim Robbins Seat Belt The bridegroom-to-be is the grandson of the late Judge and Mrs.

Authur E. Simms of Fayetteville and Mrs. Irwin T. Morgan of Lebanon and the late Mr. Morgan.

He is a graduate of the University of the South at Sewanee and UT Law School. He held membership in Phi Gamma Delta social fraternity and Phi Alpha Delta legal fraternity, He is employed in the law firm of Arnett. Draper and Hagood in Knoxville, Miss Hearington, Mr. Sykes Mr. and Mrs.

Lanoice Hearington of Parsons, Tenn. a- nounce the engagement. of their daughter, Charlotte An, to Tony Franklin Sykes, son of Mr. and Mrs. Henry Sykes of Puryear, Tenn.

The wedding will be May 5. The bride elect is the granddaughter and Mrs. -R. H. Gooch and the late Mr.

and Mrs. J. B. Hearington, all of Parsons. She graduated from Riverside High School and is a student it at the University of Tennessee at Martin.

The bridegroom-to-be is the grandson of the late. Mr. and Mrs. Jim Sykes and the late Mr. and Mrs.

C. F. Kay, all of Puryear. He graduated from Puryear High 'School and UTM. He is employed by the State division of Property Assessments.

in place of her bridal headdress? She will wear her wedding dress. She is leaving it up to me. "I have arranged for an extended cocktail party with wedding cake and all the trimmings following the ceremony. Mrs. G.G., Hempstead, N.Y." The second wedding ceremony, would not be proper.

the cocktail reception is a lovely idea. The bride would wear her gown but not her veil. She would not need a Juliet cap at the reception. Serving "DEAR MISS VANDERBILT: Should not service plates or place plates be removed when the first course is set before the diner (on its own underliner)? I have six hand-painted heirloom service plates, and I would not want other plates set upon them. I'd like to see the use of service plates revived.

"Also, I like to prepare Mexican goulash (from 'Art of Mexican Cooking' by Aaron and Salom) and serve it East Indian-curry style. Some of the condiments are dry enough to be taken with the fingers. Yet guests will use their own spoons to take these foods, alongside which I have not put serving spoons or forks. Isn't it a rule of sorts that one uses fingers when no serving implements are provided by the hostess (unless, of course, the hostess has obviously forgotten a serving piece)? Mrs. W.

Pueblo, Colo." Service plates may be removed for the service of the first course, but sometimes the first course is on the service plate. Do whatever you wish in the matter. My own feeling is that the use of service plates will not be revived because there are too few people who know how to serve any more and too few families that can live in formal style. Many people do use these beautiful service plates for buffets because they are generous in size and very attractive. Unless these condiments are in individual serving dishes, Auxiliary Hears Reports At a recent meeting of the Sixth District Ladies Auxiliary to the VFW, reports were given by the following auxiliary post presidents and committee chairmen: Mrs.

Grace Owen, 1291; Mrs. Anita Ray 5827; Mrs. Kathleen Ash, 1970; Mrs. Roberta Beasley, 3595; Mrs. Lucille Melton, community activities; Mrs.

Vera Haley unit, and Mrs. Dorothy House, drug abuse. The meeting was held at the Post Home of West Nashville Post 1970 on Charlotte Pike. Mrs. Mozelle Hutchison presided.

they should not be taken with the fingers by the assembled company. For example, an individual salt cellar may be placed at each place setting without a salt spoon to indicate that the salt may be taken with the fingers. But, of course, only one guest uses it. (For Miss Amy Vanderbilt's booklet, "Engagement Wedding Etiquette," send your name and address, plus 75 cents in coin, to: Miss Amy Vanderbilt, The Tennessean, P.O. Box 1066, Weston, Conn.

06880, requesting the booklet by name.) (c) 1973 by Los Angeles Times Club Plans Annual Cage Tourney The Nashville Club of the National Association of Business and Professional Women's Clubs Inc. will sponsor its third annual Basketball-0Rama at 6 p.m. April 5 at Tennessee State University's Kean Hall Gym. All proceeds from the five games will go toward a fulltuition scholarship award for a high school senior female. A spokesman for the organization said the student is being sought by the club's scholarship committee through Metro high school counselors.

THE AWARD wil be presented at the club's 12th annual Founders' Day program at 2 p.m. April 15 in the downtown Sheraton's- -Mediterranean Room. Games scheduled are: Two pee wee boys' teams from Metro Park Board Recreation Centers. Junior girls Catholic school all-stars vs. Metro Park Board junior girl champ.

TSU women's intramural champs vs. Fisk women's extra-mural team. TSU men's intramural champs vs. Meharry Medical College all-stars. Former TSU quarterback Joe Gilliam's pro-footballers vs.

TSU big blue Tiger football players. Mrs. Paulk Elected Mrs. David Paulk was elected president of Delta chapter, Beta Sigma Phi sorority at a recent meeting at the home of Mrs. Ron Bailey in the Belle Forest Apartments.

Other officers elected at the are Mrs. Bailey, vice president; Mrs. Ben Byrd, recording secretary; Mrs. Ken Winkler, corresponding secretary, and Mrs. Monte Martin, treasurer.

The chapter also observed its birthday at the meeting. love 18. not always tell-: ing her what to and how to do TM Reg. U.S. Pat.

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